Believing in Yourself is the First Secret to Success
Believing in others is easy. Believing in yourself can be difficult. The secret to believing in yourself is so amazing, so profound, and so incredibly difficult. But why is that? And why do some people do it so easily and others find it so hard?
It doesn't have anything to do with strength of character or lack of will. It doesn't have to do with meditation or mindfulness practices. Meditation and mindfulness really do help, but they aren't necessary.
Be honest and gentle with yourself. Why don't you believe in yourself? What happened to prove that nothing good happens to you? I bet you can name one thing that went your way today. Even something as small as you got dressed. Be proud of that! It starts small. One tiny little detail after another. And with each small win, you build yourself up. You do need to be reminded of those small wins. That's where taking note of them comes in handy. If you can list something positive that happened to you today, something that you accomplished, no matter how tiny, you are a winner. May not feel like it, but small steps.
My challenge to you is this: write it down. Write down in a journal each thing that you do that makes you feel good. For this challenge, outside help doesn't count. It has to be something you did for you. Maybe it was brushing your teeth. Perhaps it was getting dresses. Did you take a walk to get the mail? Whatever it is, no matter how big or small, write it down (if someone reminded you to do something and you did it, that counts). The only requirement is that you accomplished it. Each and every thing that you write down is something you have done.
You will start to notice each win as it happens. There will come a time when your journal will prove to you that you are worthy. I am going to share with you that I feel this way frequently. I feel like a failure, that I don't do anything, that I don't contribute. But I do. When I make dinner, when I get the laundry done, when I make a schedule for class, I have proven that I put the work in. And my journal reminds me of everything I accomplish every day, Whenever I start feeling this way, it's usually because I did not keep my journal up to date.
Keep a small notebook with you and jot down what just occurred. We tend to forget the little things as our day goes on, and I don't want you to forget.
Eventually, you will notice a pattern of success. Build on that. Be gentle with yourself. Nothing big ever happens without a lot of work. Small steps, small goals, and build each block of your winning self piece by tiny piece.
Where will you be in one month? In one year? You will amaze yourself. Whatever your goal, whether it's dancing, exercise, fitness, losing weight, changing your diet, changing jobs, writing a book, or trying something new, you have to go bit by bit. No child learned to walk or talk in one afternoon so you can't change who you are after one attempt.
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You can do this. I believe in you.
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